Self Eval #3 – My Beliefs

Loyalty, Trust and Truth –

All of these are pivotal and form the base of the philosophy of my life. Loyalty is a product of trust which in turn is a product of truth. Why loyalty? Why trust? Why truth? That’s because how much of these 3 things you receive from others is a direct result of your true behavior with other people i.e. if you’re willing to give these things on the first place, will you ever truly get them back at 1:1 proportion.

All but truth take time to build. The more truthful you are, the more it encourages others to be honest to you. It’s all about a progression. First you have to start being truthful to yourself, then others who won’t matter much and then your true love. All the while it needs to be clearly understood that everything and everyone is a passing phase in your life and is there to give you lessons to learn and understand and make you reach closer to all that there truly is and will be – the elements of the Earth, the senses in your body (dormant and active both), your soul and it’s purpose in this life.

So coming back to truth, it starts with your conscious decision to never deride yourself, never letting your inner voice drown out your passion, never fearing and loathing your actions/words. Always realize that actions and words when done and said respectively, can’t be taken back and they are already a past. All that you can do is learn from them. Remember that it may sometimes take a lot of mistakes, both similar and distinct, to get an action/word right and that’s fine as long as you are putting an effort into learning from them. Never stop believing in yourself. As long as you are true to yourself, the lessons will well and truly come your way. All that we have to do is accept them gracefully and gratefully with a smile. And when you do these simple things and practice them daily, that is when you raise your vibrations and frequency. That is when you attract better people; discuss better things, and consequently raise the vibrations of others in the process. This is when you attract soul mates and people who are willing to trust you.

That is where trust comes in. People start to trust you when you are confident (which means being truthful to yourself) about your abilities; when the distance between your commitment and strengths is infinitesimally small; when your actions truly match your words. When people trust you, they find you approachable, connectable, and worth their time. This is when you show them your trust in them, make them your accomplice, partners. Only such frequencies and vibrations will attract and send signals to your soul mate.

To win loyalty from someone, development of a persistent and often foolhardy trust is needed and hence, a nature full of truth is required. Loyalty is a state of mind that is attained by prolonged trust and devotion to each other’s truth; by demolition and dissolution of barriers between the two minds.

I seek loyalty and I know I deserve it. And for it to come to me, I’m willing to submit to my master fully trusting his voice and commands. I seek a state of true trustworthiness from my friends and partner, something that dispels any thoughts about betrayal and disobedience. I seek a state where the true freedom is attained by true following and blind love – whether be it towards my master, my God, or my love, all of whom I’m yet to meet.

 

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Marriage

No meetings are accidental. Every person you’ve ever had a chance to meet with in your life has had an energy exchange with you. They may have come to cheer you up, encourage you, to maybe give you a different perspective on your existing condition or they may just have come to destroy you. But all of these meetings carry a purpose. We don’t know who we’re going to meet but someone somewhere has his permutations and combinations going on and he is deciding for you, what you’ll eventually have and who you’ll meet in your life. You are here for a reason. Your soul decided to take up your body and existence to learn some very important chapters that will forge its way to eternal divinity.

One such type of meeting is arranged marriage. Two people from very different backgrounds, very different existences and circumstances are given a chance to get together and maybe it’s their parents’ karma to have their children get the best partner to live their life with. Please leave alone the very maniacal self-interests that parents try and fulfill from marriages these days. We as children should learn that they may never have had a chance to get their heads around the thought that they’ve been conditioned so badly and left scarred by this structure called society that they end up using their children as tools to satisfy their existential desires and defend themselves and their own deeds. And then maybe we should give a thought to the fact that we may as well be as wrong as they are, but that’s a separate topic altogether. Let us only concentrate on the marriage and the two souls that are eventually going to tangle for the rest of their journey in their respective human forms.

The first step to an arranged marriage is deciding if you really do want to get married. Either you decide it for yourself or your parents will decide it for you. For some reason beyond my comprehension, parents think it is pivotal that their child marries. It is possibly of even greater importance than him or her getting to see the world, building his perspectives, observing people from various other cultures and learning what being human really is like. I won’t disagree with people who say that all this can be done even after marriage but I come from a sect that gets married first and then starts believing that they have truly fucked it up and all of it should have been and should be the other way round. But well, I’ve given up and given in, have broken down and cared to stand up again to find my path and spread its word.

From the day the boy and the girl start to know each other before the marriage, given that they’re indeed at all allowed and that they’re living in a modern enough society to understand that courtship is important too, the connection between them starts to grow depending upon how deep do they really want to know each other, how much are they really ready to reveal about themselves and the amount of effort they’re willing to put in to make the other one feel special and cared for. Does their vibration match with each other’s and is there room for further upliftment once you are together? These are the most important steps to build the platform for their lives together and it’s called trust. Well, sometimes the courtship works and sometimes it doesn’t based on the aforementioned factors. If it doesn’t work, better luck next time.

But if it works, their souls have in some form accepted each other and built a strong enough connection to let them test their material lives together. I had no courtship except that we dropped bombs of information about our past lives upon each other once in a while on a telephone and let each other soak it, process it and see if they still want to know more. None of us was subtle. But what we ended up valuing the most from our conversations was that both of us were truly inclined to build a very strong foundation of trust. We wanted to work on that aspect and the effort was left to be felt. I knew what she was and how she works even before we took our rounds around the holy fire. And hopefully she knew me. Well, nothing perturbed us from marrying and so there we were, left to the world together and build our lives on that single most important aspect – trust. And I think this is what would happen similarly with most couples before the marriage, some smooth, some hard.

But once they are together, they are bound to work together; to see a foreseeable future together, to understand their concept of a journey together. Though some couples like us aren’t really concerned about the goals from a relationship because we’re not very concerned about the future. What we truly want is have a blissful day every day for the rest of our lives no matter where we end up and how we end up as. And as your day is so important to you, that is when you start to understand the small nitty-gritties of their day to day life and the more you observe them, and because you are connected to them in some special way, you also end up watching and observing yourself. And you watch whether each day that you’re living and that you’ve lived when you wake up the next day has fulfilled its purpose – to keep you happy; whether each day is made up of the two of you, sharing your lives and happiness together, being content in whatever you have together; whether you share a dream together, a laugh together. And you see your part in all of other half. Would he or she feel the same way as you do? Would he or she care to share it with you? Would they make you feel special? DO YOU MAKE THEM FEEL SPECIAL EVERYDAY? Notice the word “Together”!

If the answer to all of the above questions is Yes, you truly are living a blissful life and shall continue to do so. Never let the spark die out under the weight of expectations and silence. Talk, talk, talk a lot. Tell them everything even when they don’t have the ear. Hear their stories and live their day through their words. Never use emails, messengers and messages to get your point across. Your words should always carry the correct emotion that you want to convey and it can only be done when you speak; unless you are Shakespearically blessed!

However, if the answer to all the questions above is No, ask yourself – is the love between you two, still alive and is responsibility the only binding factor between the two of you? If yes, make a change. Try and make it work. Give each other tons of attention and this may just work out and life may come back to normal. If no, MOVE ON. It isn’t wrong to spare each other’s lives if the spark dies out. You’ve come to live a life of content, enjoyment and happiness; not to be doleful, somber and cruel to yourself. Your time shall pass in a blink leaving wasted years in its wake. Every soul that touches your plays its part in your souls upliftment, to enlighten it. Once there is nothing left to exchange, the need to further enhance itself depends on the soul itself. If it is satisfied, you may want to continue the same way as you’ve done all the while. But if the soul decides to further enlighten itself, and shorten its spiritual journey, it may start to bother your physical realm with choices and paths that you may not have given a lot of thought to earlier in your life. This is why in the circle of life, you find yourself at the same crossroad over and over again. This is life giving you a chance to make a better choice or a choice that suits you better at this moment of life. Don’t make it hard on each other. Discuss it, give a lot of thought because in India, getting out of marriage is a tough task – for both parents and the partners themselves. Societal pressure strikes vicious fear in the parents who aren’t prepared to deal with the repercussions of your decisions. Once decided, leave!

Carry on with your spiritual journey and try and create new connections, start a foray into art. It’s the most liberating form of exercise and it heals your soul. Remember that you’ve learnt your lessons and be grateful to them. Be grateful to the maker who gave your soul the chance to enlighten itself and make it even more powerful. Be grateful to the partner whose company helped in achieving one of the goals of your soul. You thus formed a very important connection with the other soul and all good karmas with each other will help your soul to move along in the other life or may be this life itself. Forgive each other and forget each sin for it was their way of learning their lessons. Leave them where they belong – in the past and cut your connections with it.

 

Why do you conceal?

Why Do You Conceal?

Le God – “Yo dude… Wazzzup!”

Le Me (tearing my eyes away) – “All’s fine.”

“That doesn’t sound so good.”

“No, I’m actually.. fine.”

“Are you just trying to vaguely convince yourself that you’re fine or you really are?”

“You’re my consciousness. You tell me, am I fine?”

“Woah woah woah… I know that buddy but I want to hear it from you. Are you really fine?”

“Of Course, I’m not!”

“Then why do you conceal?”

“You know it’s funny that you ask that. I conceal and yet I know that you know all my issues and I can actually have a word or two with you to sort out my issues.”

“Sticking to the question – why do you conceal?”

“You know concealing the truth is considered a form of lying itself.”

“WHY DO YOU CONCEAL?”

“Because I’m scared that what comes out from my mouth may hurt someone. I’m scared my image may be tarnished. What if it doesn’t come out right?”

“Is that your problem if what you say hurts someone else?”

“But I hate to see people and things in pain. I hate it when people go through dreadful emotions like I’ve done and I understand that if I hide something I may save the other person that much anguish.”

“For how many people will you bother to uphold this responsibility?”

“As many as I can.”

“So you’ll be a two-faced liar to yourself all your life. You’ll be fair to someone and unfair to some. Your behaviour will vary with who’s standing in front of you. Is that how you want the world to perceive you? A HYPOCRITE!”

“No I don’t.”

“You take the responsibility of understanding pain in others, to dry their tears, but who takes the responsibility to dry your tears, to console you when you’re down? People around you are enjoying themselves, look around! They may or may not care for you. But they definitely care for themselves and that’s the truth. They may go about their lives like you don’t even exist for them. There is no consolation for you.”

“So, what do you want me to do? Do I show my weaker side? Do I show them that the person they’re dealing with has deep lingering emotional issues and that he’s the loneliest ever right now, as he writes this piece? Do I stop gaining their trust? Do I stop making them love me?”

Le God (smiling) – “So that’s what it’s all about. You want people to love you.”

Le Me – “What!!! Did I say that? Yes, yes, I said that. I have to give it to you man, you really are a God!”

“Noooo. I’m not your God. I’m merely your consciousness, the one that you’ve created since your birth.”

“So, are you saying that when I started to trust you blindly, you knew that what I wanted was to worship someone else and you waited till I could realize my folly?”

“Do you think so?”

“Yes, I do…. NOW.”

“So, are you saying when I talk to you, I’m only really talking to myself and my awareness?”

“Isn’t that what consciousness means?”

“Yes, it is. Man! I suddenly don’t trust you as much as I did a few minutes back.”

“Why?”

“Because I don’t trust myself. There is so much doubt with all that is right or wrong, that to choose what’s best for me is becoming a rather arduous task in itself.”

“Are you doubting me?”

“In a sense, YES!”

“What did you learn today? What have you been learning since Saturday?”

“That all existence came from the flower of life and that all objects have some form of sacred geometry within them.”

“No no. Rollback a bit. Think hard.”

“Ok, that all creation was created by Spirit and that… woah woah woah… Are you telling me that you are my spirit too?”

“Can I be?”

“But Spirits are the start, the blank, the vacuum, the point, around whom nothing ever exists and all else came from it.”

“So am I your start, your point, your vacuum, your blank?”

“I definitely came from you or you came from me… see it’s confusing again!”

“You have to find the answer yourself. Always remember that your dark days are over and your light will shine brighter now, it should enlighten others’ path.”

“If you are my conscious, you definitely come from me. But my spirit, where does that come from?”

“That’s a question you can ask yourself some other day buddy. You’ve done very well for today.”

“Thank You so much.”

to be continued…

Footsteps

Le God – “It was a great movie we watched today – The Fountain!”

Le Me – “Yup. I never thought something so close to what I am turning into, would land so straight in my lap.”

“How’d you get your hands on the name of the movie?”

“Well, there’s a great channel called Spirit Science on YouTube. It was one of their recommendations”.

“What did you learn from the movie?”

“That trees are truly the greatest source of life. That nothing can survive without them and that I must strive to be more like a tree.”

“Well, I agree but how do you plan to be like a tree?”

“You see,  a tree only acts for its own survival. It stands tall facing the harsh sun, the storms, the rains, sometimes it survives the flood and sometimes it doesn’t. It stands tall till it can serve by consuming what is available from the nature. It doesn’t depend on anyone else. The byproduct of its function is oxygen on which humans survive. I can never be thankful enough to all trees for they facilitate human survival and therefore, eventually mine. When a tree looks down upon me, I am filled with hope, I hear a promise, a promise to be friends till death does us apart. Then there are fruits, flowers, glue, bark, roots and shade. Everything about a tree is selfless and yet it only truly works for itself. Every tree is a living example of what every human should be. Live and let live and never let the fruit of your actions be the goal of your existence. Did you notice how protagonist of the movie tries to get a tree to survive? Because that’s the source, that’s where all life births from. That’s where it shows how all life is being destroyed by a random action triggered by a human. And yet the movie keeps the sanctity of nature alive by letting the circle of life complete by itself, whether be it by disease culminating into death. And even in death, a tree decomposes to give all that it can to Mother Earth. You can’t cheat death but you can definitely ascertain that you live longer and more in harmony with nature by respecting it, treating it as equal, and valuing all that it gives us. We’re doing no justice to our own species by not letting the nature take its normal course of action. And that in the end, we’ll have to run towards it for our own survival when there’ll not be much of it left to support us.”

“Do you think you are doing enough to reverse this dangerous trend of destruction?”

“No, I don’t. All I’m helping with and doing on my part is trying to stem the damage but it clearly isn’t enough.”

“Hmmm… Sounds kinda sad.”

“I know. It’ll take a tremendously collective effort to educate people and reverse the damaging trends and habits that our past generations have imbibed in our heads. It’ll take a resolve so great, it has to be like the meditation of a single human being for a 1000 years summed into a single day. We’ve followed, for eons, the misguided footsteps that our forefathers left for us. It’s time now to change the path and follow the right direction. To let the nature see that we take it seriously and that we value its contribution in our lives. People are working towards it and it’ll take all their perseverance, hardwork, resolve and necessary contribution from the rest of us to save our planet, save our trees.”

I Forgot to Forgive, Express Gratitude and Seek Forgiveness

32 years and 9 days later, I answer the question that should have hit me when I hit my puberty “What did I forget?”. Thank You Sreejit for bringing it across me, for this is what I’ve lacked – True Forgiveness and Unrelenting Gratitude.

In this mayhem to get ahead in life, earn money, survive, and become the twinkle in someone’s eye, I lost mine. And today, during the most auspicious period in Hindu calendar – Diwali, I lay bare my demons, slay them finally, and move on. I forgot and failed to FORGIVE and I now make up for it.

Today I won’t question the motive of the demons that hurt me – I will only forgive you all. My process has cleared the clutter that has resided deep inside my head and heart, colluding my judgement, and severing my path to reach the higher me. I’ve realized that it’s only me who gave the clutter the space that it clearly never deserved.

I pledge to myself and promise my inner child that you are and will forever be in my thoughts. I now care for you and I’ll never forget you. You and I have lived long enough to understand that this load on our shoulders isn’t ours to carry. I will no longer let my power reside outside my body. I will only serve myself and the world through my higher self.

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And I now decide to get rid of all my past and I believe that nothing will work better for me than forgiveness and gratitude. I hereby forgive everyone who has ever given me pain, suffering, and humiliation in any form. I forgive everyone who has broken my heart and forsaken me. And above all, I forgive everyone who has ever betrayed my trust. I now look at you in the same light as mine.

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I thank everyone, especially my parents and teachers to have made me capable enough to ponder upon who I can be and really want to be. Thank You everyone for forgiving me when I made mistakes – conscious or unconscious. Thank You everyone for sticking by me during my duress.Thank You for lending me your shoulders to cry on.

Now I’ve got to run towards my light, my real being, my higher self!